Valentines Day. The day every man goes out and buys his lady flowers and chocolates, or tickets to some show, or jewellery, or couples go to an expensive dinner…the works. Today is also the day that some women get upset that their man didn’t get them exactly what they wanted, couples end their relationship over the wrong restaurant being chosen for dinner, or the wrong flowers were bought. We as humans have misconstrued the meaning of love so much that we have no idea the true meaning of the word anymore. Valentine’s day should not be about what your love buys you or where you go to eat dinner. It, love, should be poured into our every day. We are all human, therefore, we will not be perfect. Ladies, if we are getting our idea for a perfect man from the movies we watch or the books we read, then we will never be happy. Men, the same goes for you, do not look for your perfect lady in a magazine or the t.v.. Perfect love can only be found in one. God. So if you are looking for perfection anywhere else, you will be sad to know you won’t find it.

Let’s talk for a minute about my first point: love should not be shown all in one day but everyday. Don’t get me wrong, I am not against flowers or chocolates, but love, in all of its many faces should be shown to others every single day. 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 says this, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” That. That is what true love is. Not the gifts, not the dates. But putting someone before yourself. Not getting angry when you have good reason to be angry. Being patient in the times that God is asking you to wait. God shows us these beautiful faces of love every day and he asks that we share them with the world. Everyone we meet should be shown these traits of love. Not just our husbands or our wives, but also our enemies, our neighbors, our friends, or strangers. Every. Single. Day. Not just on one day that we have given the title Valentine’s Day. Living like God, as we were made in his image, means being like him daily. Trying our best to make his love known. We are his body for the world to see. Show the most important thing we can to the world; show love. Corinthians 13:13 says this, “And now these three remain; faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” So, when we think of love, let us not look to the world for answers on how we should act, feel, or treat others. Let us look to the word that gives us the true meaning of love. Let us look to the one who showed us the greatest love there is, God.

Now, on to my second point which was that we will never find perfection in any human. We will only find it in God. Society tells us that there is this perfect man out there for us women and the perfect woman out there for all you men. So we, being naive, go searching for this perfection. They must be real because we saw them in that movie we watched. I know I read about them in that book. That magazine had my perfect wife in it. Wrong. Society gives us all these pictures of people who we see as perfect but in reality have been photoshopped, changed and altered, spray tanned, covered in make-up. If we were to uncover our eyes and blow the dust off our bibles, we would understand that there is no perfection found in the world. We see this in Romans 3:10 where it says, “As it is written; “None is righteous, no, not one;” That word righteous means being right in relation to others. We will never be “right” or “perfect” all the time or any of the tie for that matter. God is the only one who ever was and ever will be unstained by sins and wrongdoing. So what does this mean for us finding perfection in someone on earth? Seek God first. Matthew 6:33, “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all these things will be added unto you.” If we take time to get to know God before turning to this world to find what love means, then God will honor us and bless us with someone who is imperfect but who we will find “perfect” in our eyes. We know no one is going to be blameless, and spotless as God is, but God knows that perfect someone for each of us and will lead us to them if we allow him to. But He doesn’t want that before we get to know him and his true love for us. No other love can compare to that of Christ’s love for us. None. If we learn of this true love from God, then when we go to find that imperfect perfect someone for ourselves, we will find the right one because we won’t be looking for a photoshopped, fake tan, make-up covered, barbie, but we will be looking for someone who has inner beauty, who is kind and patient. Someone who will honor and respect you and who will honor and respect others. But even when we do find that human who we believe to be perfect, if we keep God where he belongs in our lives, he will stay our first, true love and will only add more happiness to our human relationships. Take off the blinders that the world puts over our eyes and see the true beauty that can be found when we see God as our first true love. 1 John 4:8 says, “Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.” We will never find a truer love, a more honest and pure love than that of God. For he loved us first. He is our example. Seek Him, seek true love and he will guide you the rest of the way.

​He gives us Roots so we can Fly. Roots and Wings.